How long will I bleed, how long to TTC?

[Lynne33]

May I join you?

I had a miscarriage that began on Wed. evening. This is after 2 vasectomy reversals, we were SO thrilled to be pregnant- and so devastated to have lost it. We told our families on Christmas, and just a few days later had to call with our bad news.

I've found that the VR should have had no part in the miscarriage, if the sperm made it to the egg, it was good. Correct me if I'm worng. I am reproductively healthy. This was my first. I've heard miscarriage is more likely with a first pregnancy???

I was told to wait for 2 cycles to TTC, so does that mean we can TTC after AF arrives 2 times after this bleeding stops?

When will I stop bleeding? It's not bad, but I want it to stop, it's a constant reminder. I want to move on... not that I ever will, completely.

I found this wonderful website, and would like to share it with you all:

http://www.labelledame.com/miscarriage-infant-loss.html?gclid=CLqpjcKRuIkCFQx1VAodRljvPQ

DH and I ordered key chains.

I am so sad, I pray this empty feeling goes away. I'm not doing well. My step-kids are here for the weekend, it's going to be rough.

Here's to a Happier New Year, with lots of baby dust... :) Lynne

[Amanda C]

Lynne: I am so sorry for your loss. The pain is so deep is is sometimes unbelieveable. I lost my baby a little over 2 weeks ago. It was my second pregnancy. Pregnancy with DS was just fine. Just like you, we were so excited and then so devistated. Our dr told us to wait until I get my first normal AF. He said it can take up to 6 weeks to return. I bled for about 2 weeks with my m/c. It was a horrible reminder of what was happening. I am so sorry and know that there are no words to help you feel better. Even after 2 weeks, it has gotten better. I have down times and better times. I think our babies will always be part of our lives, just in a different way than we were prepared for. God bless you.

[Lynne33]

Hi Amanda,

Thanks for posting. It seems the bleeding is slowing down, it's day 5. I go for blood-work on Tues., then an ultrasound on Thurs. I pray I don't need a D&C.

I'm sorry for your loss, I have a whole new understanding of what a miscarriage is all about. I feel a stronger woman for having gone through this, even though I wish I hadn't. I feel better prepared for my next pregnancy, wierd, but it's how I feel. I had a bad feeling from the beginning with this one, and already feel positive about the future.

Each day is getting a little better, still tears, but better. How are you???

I pray we each get a quick BFP again.

[MrsBritney]

Lynne -
Hi there..
I was exactly where you are now... a year ago. WE found out a few days before christmas that we were pregnant..we told EVERYONE... and then about a month later found out that the pregnancy was not viable..
I had to have a D&C instead of allowing nature take its course...
I am definitely stronger for all of it.. but it doesn't make it any easier when it was happening.. I never thought it could happen to me.. it was our first too.. it took a lot of tears and time to get over it.. and now we are 20 weeks along...
I am with you tho.. I had a bad feelin about my first one.. I would RUSH to the restroom worried about a miscarriage since the first day I found out..
With this second one. I haven't felt that worry..
I hope that you can find time to really just greive.. that was the best way for me to get over it... (altho it never really leaves you..) I am so sorry for your loss.. and welcome to our thread...
If you need anything.. let any of us know.. all of these girls are WONDERFUL

beth

[Lynne33]

Thanks Beth, and congratualtions on your little one! How exciting!!! How long did it take you to conceive after the m/c? How long did you wait to TTC? It's a bad time of year for this to be happening, but we'll get through it. Thanks for posting! Happy New Year!

[leah80]

Lynne~I'm so sorry about your loss i also have had a m/c alittle over 2 wks ago and this is my 2nd pregnancy and 2nd loss. I know what your going through about the empty feeling. Just like Amanda said i still have my really bad days and my good days. Time does make it better but of course our babies are never forgotten. I will say a prayer for you & your family and wish 2007 will bless us with BFP's!!! (((BIG CYBER HUGS)))

Amanda~i'm so sorry i couldn't find your # if you wanna send me a PM with it again i promise i'll put it in my phone this time. So how was your New Years

MrsBritney~how are you doing this morning. Did you have a good new years.

[MrsBritney]

Lynne -
after my D&D I bled for a few days.. it stopped and then it started again.. HORRIBLY.. I had terrible cramping .. some of the tissue was still left in there.. and my body was trying to get rid of it.. I bled for about 2 weeks.. and then about 6-8 weeks after that I started my period again... then I was allowed to TTC...
It took me from January (when I had the D&C) till middle of August to conceive again.. and that was after an HSG to determine if any blockages were there... lo and behold I was pregnant two weeks later.
there were definitely some hard times and I went thru my BFN's with some disappointment...but we were relentless... and now little Dylan is on his way.. sooo scary!!!!
It definitely wasn't the best start to a new year.. but it made us stronger and we know that this year will be awesome..
Join the other thread "Waitin" in this same place.. all of the girls will welcome you with open arms!

[Nikkie]

Im so sorry for your loss , im praying for you a speedy recovery ((hugs)))