anger...grrr...

[bellasmom2006]

please tell me it's hormones that's making me homocidal...lol.
i want to b!tch slap everyone at work and punch my dh in the head. last night he annoyed me SOOO much! omg. i wanted to deck him! he was snoring, farting, taking up MY side of the bed, he biffed me in the head while he was sleeping & turning over cuz he was too close to me in bed. AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
we have a frickin KING SIZE BED! HOW can he take up 3/4 of it? the dog takes up the bottom part by laying across our feet. man...i'm sooo cranky & irritable lately. since like a month ago. i just want to be left alone and not bothered.
is this normal? please tell me i'm not a head case...i'd hate to have the padded cell waiting for me...lol.

[babidius]

You have me laughing so hard because that is EXACTly how I feel. I can be completely fine one second and then a raving lunatic the next. I try to just stay away from people in general because I get irritated so much. We have a King Size bed too but DH knows better than to come near me whne I am sleeping and both our dogs sleep on his side. He even has his own blanket because I won't share with him. Stay away from people!!!

[mimicam]

well, I have noticed that I have been a little more irritable since I got PG. My husband does annoy me more than usual. I have no patience for anyone and am ready to start a fight over anything that pisses me off when normally I would've let it go. SOme people are effected by hormones more than others. I find that when dh wants to cuddle I get irritated b/c half the time I am nauseaus, have back pain, or headache. But i know some of my friends were had PMS symptoms through their whole pregnancy.

[rich]

In reading this ladies, I get the feeling a pregnancy is going to be 9 months of Super PMS and what recommendations do you give for a male to survive this onsloth other than sleeping in the basement with the dogs and treading very lightly around the house. I mean right now my wife has one super fit day because AF showed and now you are telling me I am going to look forward to nine months of this after the initial Happyglow disappears. Ladies you must give help to this wretched male as to how to survive.
Luck, you the dust,may your husbands survive
Rich:(

[MandyHotz]

Rich,
Every woman is different so if you believe in God, PRAY HARD you will be one of the lucky ones that get an easy pregnancy :o

Ladies,
I honestly havent had any mood swings that I hear of, DH says he is terrified of my next pregnancy cause this one has been picture perfect. Not bragging, just saying I know it CANT be this easy. I was always mean before my periods and would just 'go off' for no reason so I am sure its coming....

Mandy 29w4d

[ami]

Rich....I have read many of your posts on the other site we all use to belong too...and I have to say I love hearing your thoughts and feelings and ideas on all of the subjects and questions..You truely are one amazing husband!!

Truth be told, alot of times I feel like I am stuck in PMS mode..It feels like you have no control over your emotions, you know while your taking things out on Dh or others around you that truely you've lost perspective on reality but you can't help yourself..On the other hand I have been more then aware of when it's my emotions that got the better of me and can make up faster due to that factor..

I think the best advice is--to be as loving as you can be--and yet know when time alone is what she really needs and wants..

I am currently 22 1/2 weeks pg and from the sounds of the pg threads sleep is a biggie with us all..It's hard to sleep, hard to get comfy, hard to stay asleep and hard to wake up feeling good--so a restless husband or a bed hog is probably a touchy situation for all pg couples..Especially if the pg wife is finally asleep and gets woken up...

Honestly Rich..I don't see you having a problem with a hormonal wife..I think you'll know what to do and what not too do..and when you don't you'll learn..and if you don't learn then it's going to be tough..haha

Lots of Luck..

[sweetmelissa]

I must say that things at work get on my nerves more, but I think that has to do with the fact that I have short-timers disease.

As far as home life goes, I have been in a much better mood pregnant, rather than when I was not pregnant. I think I am just so excited about being pregnant and look forward to the baby's arrival that not much bothers me. I think it all boils down to hromones and how our brains process them. Some people feel cranky and it puts other people in a great mood. So, for Rich, I do not think that you should get too worried yet, hopefully you both will be feeling good. But if your wife happens to get cranky sometimes, just remember it is the hormones speaking.

Melissa

[Lyndzie]

Rich- my poor DH was on constant alert for the first trimester of my pregnancy. (Our pregnancy was a Complete shocker so that didn't help things.)
Dh (DFiance at the time), unfortunatly, had to tiptoe around alot.:( *Makes me feel horrible to actaully type that!* He had no idea what to say when he'd walk in a room and I'd be bawling at a Hallmark commercial and go from 'nicey-nicey- lets cuddle'--to-- 'Get your hands off me!*!*!'

The best advice I can say is don't ever tell a nauseous wife "It'll be over in a few months.* ( When we're puking our guts up- we're only living for the NOW!)

Anything what will help with your wife's M/S- do it! (ICE COLD Granny smith apples worked for me? Weird- I know.) But my work shift started at 0600-so my DH would be up at 4:30 putting an apple in the freezer--cutting it and bringing it to bed so I didn't have to raise my head to eat them!

When your wife complains every single hour about something aching, burning, or hurting in general etc- don't ever say "Ohhhh I know...."
Nope- ya don't;)
Just ask if you can do anything to help.

Let the woman sleep! My 'average' required hours of sleep a night was about 13. This didn't leave alot of time to 'work on our relationship as a couple' but it was the only thing I (WE) could do to survive. This left alot of slack that DFiance had to pick up. (laundry, dishes etc)
The exhaustion during pregnangy can be unbelievable- I always felt like I'd pulled a 72hr medic shift with no breaks! Every single day of my first trimester was one, big, nauseous blur.

I guess just keep chating the matra- "This to shall pass!- It's only temporary" through the entire 9 months and some weeks of post-partum.

There are women who just Glow-- and LOVE being pregnant.
Then there are women like me who honestly didn't like the process at all but am obviously grateful for my perfect DS.
Most days I think I'm nuts for starting the TTC2 process. I keep asking DH is he's up for the challenge again?? He just smiles and says "of course dear."

Poor poor DH.
Pregnancy is seriously hardwork...but being the Husband of the prego wife is no walk in the park either;)

Best of luck to you. You're a very intelligent guy (I read your responses often) and you'll survive. Just always think carefully before you speak. The best of intentions phrase- can seriously be obscured by the fragile ego of the bloated, fat-feeling, out of control-hormonal woman;) Hahahaha

Again- good luck!

[rich]

Ladies I thank you for the info, I'll remember to bring the flowers to her and I will pray LOUD and clear to the Lord to spare me. I must be doing something right as she hasn't killed me after all these years. Thank you much.

May your remaining time be peaceful and fully harmonious to all,
Rich

[lml1342]

Lyndzie - Amen Sister!!!! Great advice.

I think I have had a reasonably average pregnancy, except I do poop out quite a bit. Even still, it is definitely hard work being pregnant, and women need to have some extra help around the house.

My husband treads very lightly around me for fear that I am having a bad day. Honestly, I haven't had that many towards him, I usually take it out at work and by the time I get to him, he is like the best person in the world.

I did hear my husband telling a friend of ours (they are also expecting their first a month after us) that no matter what she says or does, as the husband, you have to be patient, supportive, or just plain shut up about it, because your body isn't being invaded and will never know what this feels like. I have to hand it to him, I couldn't have said it better myself.

Just know that we don't mean it, and will eventually snap out of it. Oh and just a warning, it may not stop immediately after your child is born. I work with a guy whose wife is starting to wean their daughter off of breastfeeding and he said that she is on edge all of the time.

Oh well. I am not sure which one of you posted about work, but I hear you. I mean, I am usually not one to get too mad about a lot of things, but I am going to tell you, at work, I am do different lately. I got into a discussion with a co-worker yesterday...and this is one that I would consider a friend, by the end, I could have picked up my desk and threw it across the room. Oh well.