Trying desparately

[crissy]

I know what it feels like to feel so jealous when someone announces i'm pg. I really am glad for them and at the same time feel jealous. The two emotions are just hard to deal with. My best friend had a baby girl in Nov. I haven't seem the baby as we live in two different countries. She is coming to visit March and I don't know how i'm going to handle it. I love her like crazy i'm even helping to pay fly her in but i'm also dreading dealing with it.

[SAMELA]

:)Hello,yes you are right,i also fell so gelous when i see other women pg,but not bad gelous,just sad jelous.I am Sam,and trying for a baby,i am on 10DPO,and still waiting.
Baby dust to you.

[QTDestinee]

I understand your feelings, I think all women would understand. I miscarried a couple years ago and soon after that my friend who had said she never wanted kids got pregnant. Going to her baby shower was so hard I cried on the way there and after and wasn't really happy while I was there. It was all very hard. I have know this girl since she was born though and couldn't not go. She had a cute baby, but its hard everyday. Just keep your head up, you will have your own child soon and then you will want your friend to support you too. Friends are friends forever, I know it will be hard and you may need baby breaks, we will be here for you. Let us know how it goes.

[crissy]

Well she's coming in today and i'm going to meet her at the airport, i'm the godmother and the christening is Sunday. I want to do something nice for them not sure what yet. I'd like to get a gift for the baby (christening gift) but not sure what to get.

[charlotte98]

I think that most of us (okay, probably all of us!) know what you are talking about. It is definitely perfectly normal to be happy for someone while at the same time feeling sad for yourself. I can't tell you how many times I have smiled and said congratulations to a friend and hung up the phone and cried for hours. When my sister told me last June that she was pregnant again (her 4th baby, and the 2nd 'surprise') I can't even imagine what the look on my face was. I was actually pissed off everytime I saw her (she lives down the street) for 8 months, and when she talked about it, I would change the subject. Okay, nothing I'm proud of, but it hurt too much. However, the minute I held that baby boy, it all went away. I am at her house everyday pushing her aside so that I can hold him, and I take secret delight in the fact that he will only take his thumb for me! I bet that you will hold that little girl and feel nothing but happiness for your friend and for yourself for being a part of this baby's life. It's not going to help your longing for a baby get any better, but it will probably help you get over your jealousy for your friend. As for christening gifts, I have found many things at Christian bookstores. They usually have whole sections devoted to baptisms.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!
Char

[Delicateangel]

I Know the feeling, I recently went through this with my sister, couldn't be happier yet be soo jealous and mad. I told my husband and well he didn't react so great he told me am I going to be like this when anyone announce's they are pg. I've never felt so horrible in my life. But don't worry I know what your going through.

[crissy]

Thanks for the listening ear and support. I'll keep you posted

[darkblue]

Crissy,

How is the visit going? I know how you're feeling, I hope you can enjoy the visit.:)